I’ve been a believer in various forms of meditation for many years. This book caught my attention because it sounded new and intriguing. BUT — a mirror? Looking at myself in a mirror has never been a favorite pastime. In fact, I avoid mirrors as much as possible. A brief look to make sure nothing’s in my teeth, or that my hair isn’t frightening, or my makeup smeared, and I’m good to go.
It turns out, though, that this book addresses, among many other things, the art of learning to look at and learn from, one’s reflection. Far from being an act of narcissism, it’s a way to embrace self-discovery. The book is written in an easy-to-read format, and author Tara Well, PhD is highly knowledgeable. She’s an Associate Professor in Psychology and it shows. I loved the amount of interaction that’s encouraged throughout, with ideas for not only looking in the mirror but doing a video diary of what you’re experiencing while doing it. Whether it’s anxiety, fear, anger, lack of self- confidence, low self-esteem, or lack of understanding the way you see others and they see you, there is something to be learned here. I had several moments of “aha! that’s me!” when reading.
It might be easier for a very young generation to warm up to looking at themselves – after all, selfies rule the world today. But as the book explains, there’s so much more to looking at oneself or sharing a selfie. Life is not just about getting “likes”, it’s about making real contact, with oneself and with others.
I found this book not only a way to make contact with my inner self, but to overcome self-criticism of myself and others. I highly recommend it!